It's The Shallow Water That Kills Us Slowly

Have you ever experienced this?

You walk into a coffee shop.

Barista: “Hi, what can I get you?”

(__________ Insert favourite drink here)

Barista: “How are you today?”

“Good.” You reply as you pull out your phone out of sheer habit.

Conversation ends.

You check your notifications - nothing life-shattering.

“Here you go.” The barista hands you your drink with a smile.

“Thank you.” And you leave.

The moment is gone. The moment to make a connection. To make someone smile. To be kind.

And like robots, we go about our day.

Let’s rewind and try again.

Here is a paraphrase of one of my connections:

You walk into a coffee shop.

Barista “Hi, what can I get you?”

(__________ Insert favourite drink here)

Barista, “How are you today?”

“I’m great. A little nervous. I have an important meeting later. I needed to get out and go for a quick walk.”

“Oh, can I ask what’s the meeting about?”

“It’s a potential client. I’ve never met them before. Honestly, I’m more excited than nervous. If it works out, it could be the start of something really cool. What about you, how are you today?”

“I’m tired. I’ve been studying for classes between work and I have a test coming up.”

“Oh, what are you studying?”


…. You get the idea.

I showed up a few days later. We asked each other follow up questions and I tipped 100% ($4)

The time after that, I got a free drink.

I don’t know what happened to that barista.

But I do know that both our lives are a little bit more connected and richer because I put my damn phone away.